We all know that drama with family members spreads like wildfire. I'm usually always the last to know, but that's okay in certain instances. This one however, I was pretty mad over.
So, the story goes... my brother is dating this girl for probably 2 years now - total. When they first got together, they didn't know much about each other, but I guess it was instant love for her. He pulled away because he's never had an emotionally stable person in his life, so he was scared - yet still a bit in love with his ex. They were both stupid and didn't use protection when they did have sex, and she got knocked up. This freaked him out, because he was not ready for a kid at that time. (I never understood why people freak out, like it's some miracle that a child is produced when condoms are not used) Like, fucking der. So, they agreed to get an abortion.
Well, maybe 4 or 5 months down the road, she's knocked up again. Hello, stupid asses did you not just have an abortion not too long ago cause you weren't ready? Mind you, my brother is a mellow laid back person, she is the more dominant, controlling one and I've noticed this ever since she came around. Anyways, they're ready for this child and continue their relationship. She argues with him over stupid shit, bickers if he doesn't answer to her every beck and call and she's a very jealous person.
Him and I and one other sister have the same father. One of my other siblings is the same age as he and they attended school together and sort of dated. But, at that time, neither one knew that they were connected somehow until my mom seen him when she picked my sister up at school. She asked if his last name was a certain last name, since he looks like a spitten image of our father. So, that's how we were reunited 4 or 5 years ago. He's 21 now.... and its still been kind of awkward and we're still not as close as I'd hoped we would be.
But anyways, his gf does not trust him to hang out with my other sibling alone who has no relation to him what-so-ever, since they at one point in time, kissed and had a thing. Even though they both see that as gross now, since we're all family. It's just weird, she shouldn't feel threatened over something that happened when they were teenagers. He just turned 21 in October and he wanted to go out with his guy friends, since the previous night was their night. He went to a dance club and a strip joint, since someone wanted to buy him a lap dance. I didn't see the huge ordeal in all of it since its a one time thing and she should let him enjoy his fucking birthday for christs sake. But no, she had a psychotic fit and was dramatic about the whole thing on Facebook and ended up dumping him for like a day. My brother was torn, because he wanted to be with his son.
(she's the type of person that will keep him from him just to be a vindictive bitch.)Well recently, the thing that pissed me off was - he had his son all day while she was at work, since she works weekends for like 4 hours and he's off then. After he picked her up from work, he had to go drop something off at my moms house for a second. She sat in the car with their son and when he got back in the car, she decided to start arguing with him over stupid crap. He turned up the car radio, because he didn't want to fight or hear her bitch at him and she punched him in the face and bloodied him up real good. He got out of the car and went back in my moms house and she sped off somewhere. Like wtf? If I could, I so would go and punch her right square in the fucking face, so she could see how it feels, but first - I would make sure that my nephew is no where near me at the time so he doesn't have to see that shit.
He's close with my sibling he went to school with. He tells her everything. So he says he's not in love with his gf anymore and has only been staying with her because he doesn't want to be like our father. He has no idea that he is 100 times better than our father ever was. (was never around for any of us kids)
SO, I decided to post a status on FB (yes I know, fb is god-like and everyone reads that shit) that wasn't necessarily mentioned that it was directed at them, but I'm pretty sure they gathered that.
"Relationships come and go, some will be long lasting and some will be destructive. When you're in a failed relationship, that doesn't mean you have to stay to make the "other" person happy when you're miserable. Do what you want to do, even if it isn't what the other person wants."everyone agreed, but got no response from the two people it was directed at... How do I talk to my brother to let him know that he doesn't need to be with her in order to provide and be there for his son? Because, this relationship was doomed from the start.